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IT CAN BE PAINFUL TO BE SINGLE!!

Thu, 24 Jan 2019 20:52:14 +0100

When people say, “I am single” It carries different weights to different people. The truth is that you may never know the value of the word until you have experienced the pains that come with it especially when you are fast approaching your thirties and there is no guy coming who looks like it. When the comments about your readiness and suitability for being a wife seem to be so much and yet there is nobody coming to pop up the question.

You can be beautiful and still be single at 30. You can be famous and still end up an elderly single lady. You can be very spiritual, serving so well in the church, faithful beyond the average sister, well established in life and still be single when all your friends are married. You can be loved by all and still be single. Worst of it all is that you can be married and still be single. It is so painful to be so popular and yet nobody (worthy of being a partner) ever walks up to you to say, “I want you” or “I’d like to marry you”. How frustrating it gets when you have to be the one making passes as a lady, when those you love seem to be looking the other way. People can make beautiful comments about you, your dressing, your character, your love for God and yet none of them will ever walk up to you to make a marriage proposal. It’s amazing how these things happen but believe me, they do.

Every birthday brings a fresh wave of sorrows. You seem to be tired of the yearly prophecies. Every year someone will say, “By this time next year…” Year after year, wedding after wedding, you get lonelier and lonelier as you continue to loose friends since there is no more common ground for all former interactions (levels have changed). It is painful when you always have to take yourself out for a treat and even though you are an all made career person, having all you need, you still wish you had someone to rest your shoulder on and call your own.

Singleness is the dread of every lady in a relationship. She would rather do anything to protect that courtship that is close to marriage than go back in to the world of the single and searching, most especially when age is ticking very fast against her. The death of a “about to wed” brother or husband has sent so many to the psychiatric hospital talk-less of dangerous heart breakers who lead on a lady till she has lost any thoughts of an alternative and then smash her heart in to pieces while they go ahead, marrying another lady and raising their own children. See! This thing is a serious matter.

Singleness has populated hospitals, it has populated mortuaries with people committing suicide, it has led to so much psychological imbalance that even some who are not obviously mad are not really sane as well. It’s amazing what a heartbreak can do. The guy walks away clean and neat, leaving behind a completely damaged lady for another man to probably pick up. Of course, the probability reduces with time and age for the lady. Sometimes, he has led her to committing so much abortions till her womb has become ruptured, then he disappears into thin air, in pursuit of a fresh angel.

Singleness has populated the streets with so many ageing broken hearts we call harlots who would rather trade the remaining little value of that body for some little love and dollars before it rots to the earth. Singleness is no joke! Singleness, when it is advanced, rolls in a hot battle of masturbation for those who desire to live right and not give in to the evil alternative of immoral living and looseness. The body says, “Okay, since you won’t express yourself with any man then at least express this fire with yourself” Many easily get trapped here, doing all sorts and manners of amazing gymnastics with their sexual organs, just to catch the feel or at least to feel the fun. Unfortunately, masturbation can be a worse alternative to fornication as it seems closer to a demonic activity and can actually involve conjuring spirits. Only God knows how many ladies have quietly turned to lesbianism as a result of continuous and a seemingly hopeless situation of singleness.

Singleness can get to a stage where everybody makes it a point of duty to beg God to find someone for you. Have you ever been questioned by parents, friends, family members and even church folks at the same time, all of them asking you “Why are you still single?” It even becomes more painful when opportunists who want to take advantage of the vacancy situation, start knocking your doors. How about when you have been bridesmaid for so many of your friends who are now mothers and yet you still don’t have a steady relationship going towards the altar? To be single can be painful, so painful as to make you shed tears in your closet. Many have buried such sorrows deep down their hearts and carefully concealed it with artificial smiles and the truth is: Someone is crying right now!

What are those things that could cause this? Over the years, having interacted with a number of ladies, I have come to realize that despite the fact that there are so many reasons only God can spell out (i.e. there are cases of singleness that only God can explain), there are still a number of issues that cause these things that we can address:

IGNORANCE – Jesus also wept when He came to Jerusalem, bringing the salvation that they have long awaited for years, only to discover that they were unaware and completely ignorant of the timing, the person and the “how”. How amazing it is to discover that God had already visited so many of the ageing single sisters in the church today but how sad it is to know, that they were ignorant, unaware that it was the Lord at that time, It was the person and that was how God chose to do it. Alas! They said “NO” to the right man. Unfortunately waiting for another season might not be a palatable experience though it will still surely come (Hab.2:3). It is the duty of every daughter of Zion to study God’s word and be sensitive to Him so as to know what He is doing for you per time and How He is doing it because God is a specialist in packaging the greatest gifts in the most unassuming and unlikely packages. Watch out! Luke 19:44, John 11:35

INDECISION – A double minded man is unstable in all his ways, Let not such a man think that he can obtain anything from the Lord (James 1:8). Indecision is what makes a lady to delay an answer to a proposal for too long, all in the name of ‘praying about it’. In the body of Christ, we have a good number of spirit filled, fervent and serious minded believers who have not yet made up their minds. They want God’s will, yet they want a well built, financially stable, not too dark complexioned, prayer band brother. What is that? Rather than simply receive the will of God, they have too many parameters that God must meet, otherwise His will is not their will. These brethren still have their own will and yet want God to make their own will, His will no matter what. How can this be? The bible concludes, “Let not such a man think… he can receive anything from God” not even a husband. If you want to pick a husband by yourself :– Go ahead (since you think you know what is best for you) and if you want the Lord to lead you :– Give Him a free hand, allow Him to bless you beyond your little understanding, but to stand in-between these two ways is worse than a mistake.

FOCUS ON THE WRONG THINGS – A husband is a spirit in a man (not a man) and not every man has it. Not every man is a husband and not every husband is yours. You need to understand this! Complexion, body build, financial status, asset portfolio, facial looks and the type of surname, primarily has nothing to do with someone being your husband. When Adam saw Eve, He saw well, that was why He saw bone before flesh. He was seeing the invisible before the visible. Note that He said, “This is bone of my bones” before “flesh of my flesh”. The visible things are minor, they are secondary. This means that they only come to view after that which is unseen has influenced a decision. The Bible says it all, for those things which are seen are temporary! Stop all this cry about the Masters degree he must hold, the facilities and the kind of job he must have, etc... I have discovered that visible things can be recreated or adjusted e.g. a black lady can become fair just like a fair lady can become charcoal black. Money can change an ugly face, yes! Money can adjust a face, it can point the nose, boost the breast, change clothes, etc., a little persuasion can increase academic qualifications but how can you adjust the spirit of a man or redesign his destiny. I counsel you to see well and see right!

LUSTFUL DESIRE – Many have wasted so many years pursuing and managing a lustful relationship, only to find out that it is vanity. Unfortunately, by the time they realize it, time has gone and yet they are back to square ‘one’. When lust gives birth to a relationship, only lust can breastfeed that relationship. When you give in to a guy because of your intense sexual attraction to him, how can you possibly keep that relationship from fornication? Lust is not Love, in fact they are very far from each other. Love will say, ”I don’t want to mess you up before our wedding”, Lust will say, “Let’s do it now, seeing we are going to marry”. Waste no further time! Embrace self-control – it is a fruit of God’s Spirit within His own!

HEALTH /DISABILITY FACTORS: Of course, the general submission is that nobody desires to marry a crippled, blind, maimed, disabled lady. Every mother warns her child not to go that way otherwise parental consent will be a tug of war. The result is this: Somewhere inside the heart of every disabled girl lies the quiet but strong hold that no guy would like to marry me this way. For some, it’s the fact that they have quietly agreed within themselves that it would be difficult for them to find a husband. Whereas we cannot blame the society or the mothers who insist that they would rather die than watch their son marry an SS or crippled lady with a disfigured physique, (forgetting that it was the mercy of God that has kept their own children from being that way, either by birth or by accident) we have more hope in addressing the issues from the perspective of the disabled lady herself. The Bible says, “As a man thinketh in his heart so he is”. It is okay if people look down on you and condemn you but it is a crime for you to do the same or think as such to yourself. Whether God heals you or not has nothing to do with His ability to give you a marriage with seamless joy. That genotype does not need to change for you to find your God given partner. All you have to do is to believe what God says about you and change the way you think about yourself because you will always become what you keep seeing as you. It’s just a matter of time. Lift up your head and allow the King of glory to come in with your man. Try God! No matter how dark the situation is, one thing is certain, it is impossible for you to hold on to Gods word and end up crashing in defeat. It has never happened and it will never happen! Though many years may pass by and time may tick away but in the end, He that is coming will surely come, otherwise the very word upon which heaven and earth were founded would have collapsed. It is not over with you until HE’s over.

OVERSPIRITUALITY: This is the way God does it! It must be like this! That is the way He did it for Sis Mercy, bla, bla, bla… When you see people talk like this, they seem to know more than God himself. To them, if God must give them a husband, He must speak in a still small voice like He did to Elijah, He must show them a dream and above all, it must be a brother in their church, etc... May God forgive several pastors, leaders and fathers who have made several sisters lose their divine provision by stylishly blocking their vision away from God’s choice children who are outside their own church premises. Some pastors insist that “until I see the brother and undergo deliverance for him or take him through my own unique doctrine, you cannot say “yes” (Eccl. 7:17 – 20). All these things have caused our churches to be filled with beautiful and godly sisters, unmarried at old age. In case you are locked up this way, probably you have found God’s will for your life outside your denomination’s walls, please seek the face of God for sincere direction because you may need to make a hard choice to move forward. The best of men of God are still men.

UNBELIEF: Lack of special beauty/sex appeal, Lack of social skills, Level of education, humble background, local, poor, uneducated, tribal marks or no tribal marks are not enough to debar you in marriage. The Bible says, “They shall not lack their mate in Zion”. You need to believe that God has a man for you. You need to have that confident assurance, the evidence of things hoped for that God is not just going to do it but that He has done it and would reveal it in beautiful time. Do you believe? It is through faith that the elders obtained. You need faith to obtain a husband from God. Have faith! Heb.11:2, 6

CAUSES, SPELLS AND DEMONIC ACTIVITY: Indeed if you have not yet given your entire life to Christ, you are an easy prey to demonic activities and causes influencing singleness. Sometimes there are some unholy/devilish trends in a family e.g. I have seen a family where none of the daughters got married till they died and they all died mysteriously and at a young age. Only Christ can truly save from the power of darkness. He is the bridge through which we are translated from darkness to light. I counsel you to turn over your life completely under His influence. You can do that right now in case you’ve not. Nevertheless, you can rise up and challenge the devil if you are a child of God because no matter who said, “The daughters in your family will never marry in their youth” Christ has delivered you from all causes by his becoming a cause for you (Gal.3:13). Rise up and charge at any demonic affiliations to singleness, if you perceive that any such thing is harassing you. Don’t just sit down and say “I have a spirit husband”, I didn’t see it in the bible (I’m afraid at the way this thing has suddenly become popular among God’s children to the extent that a Christian sister can open her mouth and say, “I have a spirit husband” and yet not a single case or something closer to it was mentioned in the entire ministry of both Jesus and all the Apostles), but in case you see it, take up your spiritual armour and deal with the monster. You don’t need any money sucking deliverance specialist but if you still feel it’s beyond you, then see your pastor.

PAST MISTAKES: Unfortunately the mistakes of the days of ignorance continue to hunt several years after. It has become an issue for some of our sisters who were once given to harlotry on a very popular scale to develop confidence in a forthcoming relationship, especially when they have experienced sudden fall outs from partners who were convinced by friends and neighbours that the lady they are going out with is still a whore. People continue to call you what they knew you to be several years ago. It takes God to clear this. Even if you had a child or children from a past relationship (out of wedlock), it does not hinder God from answering your cry for your own mate. There is a man for you that way who would love you and love your kids, you just have to believe it. Nevertheless the person with a past must believe first in her salvation. She must be convinced that indeed, old things are passed away and all things are become new. God will honour the faith of such a lady with a jaw breaking provision of a husband. Believe it!

PARENTS AND DECISION LORDING AGENTS: “Over my dead body will you marry a Tonga, Swahili man or Chewa”! I’m sure you’ve heard such statements from parents who rule their children without any recourse to God’s will as though they were the ones that created those children in the womb or designed their destinies. Unconsciously, they take over the place of God and make costly decisions that negate his will headlong, thereby frustrating God’s overall purpose in that life. So many of our single sisters have actually found their husbands but for these exalted principalities who would not just release their blessings until things go their own way. While some parents insist on arranging the husband, some general overseers also help God to do the fixing even when the poor sister is seeing someone else. As a result, many are stranded and thus the name of God is blasphemed among the heathen. If your parents are insisting on you against the will of God, rise up to hand over their case to God who has their hearts in His hands. Allow God to touch their hearts before giving in to them against Him. Remember that they are men and even the best of men of God are still men!

Lastly, some are single, not because of any of the above but simply because the divine time has not clocked. God’s time is not always in line with man’s time. John 9:2-3explains that God could just deliberately delay so as to make a generational monument out of your miracle. If only you can wait… May the Lord grant us the patience to wait while He is not ready to act (1 Sam.13: 8-10). Also, there are some who have received the gift of celibacy, some do not have any sexual tendencies or abilities nor do they sense the need for a man. As a matter of fact, there are some of our single sisters who are not believing God for a marriage (not because they gave up) but because they had already devoted their entire life to pursue a worthy cause for the kingdom of God e.g. Mary Jane never married.

All these issues form the bedrock of many single cases. I beckon on all such, reading this article now to ask God for a second and fresh visitation, especially to those who have missed their previous chances. Do you notice any of the above in your life as a possible reason why you are still unusually single, please take time to pray about it, don’t give up on yourself no matter what your present age is, seek divine direction and have faith in God. Don’t be like Saul who turned back from waiting on God, just when his answer was already at the door. Let it not be that the man God has taken so much time to build for you will come at a time when you have just left where God chose to tie you down. Don’t go for an evil alternative. If you have waited this much, then allow God to prove the worth of that waiting time. It is not over with you until He is over! Suddenly you’d find yourself in the hands of Mr. God-sent and your past misery will become irrelevant. Talk to God about your case today and allow Him to calm your fears. Please contact any CPD counsellors for further counsel. We care about you. God bless you.

LOST IN A SHEPHERD’S HANDS

Thu, 24 Jan 2019 20:50:20 +0100

Have you heard? Pastor Kay fornicated with Diana – the church secretary! Do you know that the choir master almost raped me on Saturday? Ah! Our youth pastor has almost impregnated all the girls in the church! Bla, bla, bla… It’s almost a certainty that you would have either heard or overheard this kind of breaking news over time. One begins to wonder; can a man of God fornicate? Commit adultery? Rape? Finger a teenager? Can a bishop be found to impregnate another lady in the church who is not his wife? Can the pastor of a church pay for the abortion of an innocent child to cover up his sexual misbehaviour? Can an uncle disvirgin a little cousin? Can a father molest his daughter sexually? Can a choirmaster impregnate his choir member? Can a shepherd molest his sheep? Can he throw them into danger? Can these things be possible? Can they be true?

As much as I wish I could deny it, the truth remains that these things truly and really happen! As a matter of fact even as you are reading this article, many of my sisters are already lost in a shepherd’s hands. As a counsellor I have received messages from a number of young ladies complaining about their father abusing them sexually. Someone actually talked of how her father having lost his wife now fingers and caresses her to ease his sexual tension probably as an alternative to external immorality. Several innocent virgins have lost their virginity on the laps of anointed men of God in whose arms they came to seek refuge. Several have aborted pregnancies for even campus fellowship executives not to talk of those who have been fingered by uncles, family friends and even some fathers talkless of distant relatives or neighbours.

A friend once told me how a prophet once recommended to her mother that she had to be locked in a room with him for three days of intensive deliverance sessions when she was in secondary school. Her mother ignorantly released her to the so called prophet and a room in the house for the deliverance prayers. During this period, the supposed prophet sexually abused the girl while forbidden her to cry out. Imagine that this went on within a space of three good days and yet the mother had been warned not to open the door lest the deliverance be interrupted.

So many lies have been told (taking advantage of the biblical illiteracy that has come to plague the average believer) by defaulting shepherds in a bid to deceive and exploit the sheep. Some have been told to open their laps so that the elder can ascertain their virginity status, all in a bid to finger the innocent girls. Scriptures have been misinterpreted to corroborate sinful advances. In a bid to persuade a church member in to sexual sin, I was told that a pastor once interpreted, “Marriage is honourable and the bed undefiled” in Heb.13:4 to mean “ It is fornication done on a bed that defiles and that it could still be done in a standing position without offending the Lord”. While trying to pray away breast cancer, anointed deliverance ministers have massaged breasts that do not belong to them by marriage. Unfortunately, the innocent victim feels something is wrong somewhere but she quickly concludes it must be the “Spirit”. How many special counselling sessions have led to special fondling sessions? How many so called “comforting” of a daughter of Zion in distress have actually turned to caressing? How many pastoral visitations have come with genuine intentions? We cannot but speak out on these issues as they have led to the captivity of several innocent daughters that Jesus paid the ultimate price of His blood to redeem.

If you are reading this article and happen to have fallen or presently (gradually) falling victim to a defaulting shepherd, then you need to take the following steps immediately:

OPEN UP: It is often reported that pastors, fathers or revered leaders who fornicate with their subordinates or members often threaten them with a curse or an attack if ever they opened up to anyone whosoever about the issue. This has often worked to keep several victims in perfect silence (though in pain) but those who dared to dam the threat have often found out that it’s an empty threat made by a fearful sinner unwilling to appear with his sin. Others have taken the issue of opening up to an extreme by taking it as a tool to deliberately destroy the man of God, father or leader by spreading his error all over the place with the intent to destroy him and all he stands for. Such people have carelessly trampled on the anointing with the anointed, they have abused the pastorate with the pastor, they have spit on the God of the man alongside the man of God and in so doing they have attracted the anger of the almighty upon themselves. This is also dangerous.

A victim of a defaulting shepherd should simply seek her own salvation/restoration and not bother seeking judgment or revenge upon the man of God because the God of that man is a very good judge and He knows a better way to take vengeance than you can ever do. Nevertheless seek for one of God’s matured vessels whom you know you can trust (or to us in CPD Team if you so prefer) and open up your heart on the whole issue leaving nothing secret (No matter how many corrupt vessels existing, there are still trustworthy and matured people God can carefully direct you to open up to for your deliverance). Tell that person everything that happened and is happening. Don’t be ashamed, the truth is that there is no other way out. Doing this will make you light and free. It would liberate you from the quiet anger and irritation that is gradually eating you up. It would save you from so much death and damnation and eventually it could lead to the restoration of that man as well too.

PUT AN END TO THAT EVIL OCCURRENCE: Peradventure it is an on-going or continuous sinful occurrence between you and such a shepherd, then you have to put an abrupt end to it right away. It should not occur again after now no matter what this decision will cost you, you have to be resolute and highly determined. If you are staying in his house and you have an option then run for you dear life, if you think you don’t really have an option, then let the person you opened up to give you one. Whatever it is going to take, that evil must not occur again, that sexual sin must never take place again. In case you are already entangled in it and presently enjoying the evil yourself, then this article you are reading is the divine alarm signalling the time for your repentance otherwise God must judge you with him. Permit me to say him/her peradventure it’s a case of a lesbian mother or prophetess. By all means, repent and run towards your salvation before that indulgence marks you out completely for destruction.

MAINTAIN YOUR STAND: Of course there will be a reaction to your sudden non-cooperation and refusal to continue in sin but you must maintain your stand without apology. You must be strong against any temporary affliction that accompanies your decision. While you are doing this you must also maintain a tight relationship with the person you opened up to. If it’s a father/guardian that refuses to pay your school fees because you refuse to be immoral with him, then cry out to God for help, tell your present counsellor about this and CPD TEAM as well if need be but whatever happens don’t yield even if it costs you the next school fees/ school session, you would live to be praised for the stand you took. You would be clapped for and celebrated one of these days, it’s just a matter of time.
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9 INCHES-RESPONDING TO A MARRIAGE PROPOSAL

Thu, 24 Jan 2019 20:48:29 +0100

When oral Roberts proposed to Evelyn in 1958, these were his words:

My huge, hilarious heart is throbbing, tumultuously, tremendously, triumphantly with a lingering, lasting, long-lived love for you. As I gaze into your bewildering, beauteous, beaming eye, I am literally, lonesomely lost in a dazzling , daring ,delightful dream in which your fair, felicitous , fanciful face is ever present like a colossal, comprehensive, constellation. Will you bemy sweet, smiling, soulful, satisfied spouse?”

To which Evelyn replied: Listen Oral, if you are trying to propose to me, do it in English language.

The issue of how to respond to a proposal is not an issue to sweep under the carpet at all. So many sister s have missed it at this point either saying “Yes/No” at the wrong time, to the wrong person or nailing the very person they should have married with a very harsh 9inches “NO”. Let’s consider the following biblical guidelines when responding to a marital proposal:

· As a child of God, it is not all proposals that deserve your positive response: The Bible states it clear that God detests any marriage with the heathen (Gen 24:4,8) and those who did so always had themselves to blame when they were faced with consequences that follow! Cor.6:13 says, “What fellowship (relationship, agreement, and union, talkless of marriage) has light with darkness. If you are in the Lord, you cannot marry outside the Lord. The following category of people do not deserve your “YES”: An unbeliever, a player , a married man, one who has taken an unrenounced oath against marriage (e.g. A serving Catholic Rev. Father), a boy (immature, not even knowing the implication of his words), a fellow lady (God forbids homosexuality – Leviticus 18:22;20:13; Romans 1:26,27) a sexually immoral brother or a brother that you know quite well that you would end up in bed with him before marriage.

· Say what you want to say: Say a firm (not insultive yet not apologetic) “NO” when the person deserves it. Don’t confuse the brother with your words. “NO” is not the same thing as “NOT YET”. NO belongs to those who should not even bother (e.g. a married man) and you should not give “NOT YET” to them.

· Help a brother: Let your words be seasoned with grace and don’t tear down a life with it. Some brothers may

never be able to gather themselves together again if harshly denied (nailed). Even if you will not marry him, don’t tamper with his self-esteem he needs it for him to propose to the right person. While you are firm, let your words be graceful. Sisters sometimes have always ended up regretting their words.

· Be Simple: Don’t use too much grammar to express yourself otherwise you may be saying “NO” while the poor brother may be thinking you were trying to say “YES”. Be simple, plain and sincere when responding to a proposal.

· Why the hurry? Don’t be under any pressure to respond to a proposal. If you’re not yet sure how to respond. Don’t say anything that could be misleading. Just be simple and sincere enough to say “I don’t have a response now. Some brothers are in the habit of insisting that you give them a NOW, NOW answer. Beware! Many have fallen into such traps already especially when it is a brother that looks like the desire of every lady in the fellowship. Whatever is yours will come to you and it would wait (reasonable) for you. When you are swept off your feet, make sure you are on your feet before you say “yes” otherwise you are likely to be seeing stars even when the man is not a star.

· Don’t use eternity to pray: Hope deferred makes the heart sick but when the desire comes, it is a tree of life (Prov. 13:12). You should know that you need pray but as soon as you feel released in your heart, let him know. There is no holiness in proving hard to get. Many sisters have lost divine timing by unnecessarily delaying (posing to) someone they already know is God’s perfect will for their lives. This is wickedness. Moreover you should have been praying about your life partner ever before anyone comes to pop up the question. It is easier to hear God when there are no proposals than to hear him when an impatient love-sick is waking you up every morning with love texts.

· Don’t sell so cheap: Jumping on a guy (no matter how attractive, spiritual and promising) makes a very cheap girl out of you. A serious guy may get so alarmed and shocked by the speed of your response that he may think there’s something fishy somewhere. No matter your disadvantage, never sell cheap (even if you are crippled).Even though Evelyn liked Oral Roberts, she made him realize that grammar could not buy her.

· Watch your decision –making factors: Material things should not influence your decision. Never base your judgement on the present condition or status of a brother: you may regret it later. What you see now are temporal, those you do not see are eternal. Cars, houses, certificate, good figure, juicy income, nice job etc., I hope you know they are temporal things and if you base your decision on them, your home would varnish when they varnish. Don’t rely on the opinion or information of people around you. It should not be because your mother took the names of those brothers to a holy mountain and the guy’s name was chosen. In fact the Pastor’s view should not be the only basis for your decision; he did not die for you and who knows? Pastor may be trying to fix one of his choice brothers for you.

Above all, you need to submit your life completely to the Lord and seek counsel from the spiritual authority God put you under, in order to be able to properly discern the will of God in marriage. Spiritual authority here refers to someone around you who has been like a father overseeing and watching over your spiritual development and not a mentor somewhere in U.S.A who doesn’t even know you. The Bibles says, “In the mouth of two or three witnesses, the truth shall be established”. (Matt 18:16) and also in Proverbs 11:14- “Where no counsel is the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety” and in Proverbs 15:22 “Without counsel, purpose are disappointed: but in the multitude of counsellors they are established”. Do not respond to a guy on the basis of familiarity or just because you like him. Only godless people do such things. While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are eternal. (2Cor. 4:18). Seek the face of God before making any move. Be sincere with God and with yourself and stop saying things like, “I must hook a matcho guy, a wealthy brother, a prayer warrior or a good looking bla, bla, bla”. Such things change. For we walk by faith, not by sight (2cor. 5:7). The one that is matcho today may be thin tomorrow. Just make sure that you are led by the spirit and be sincere all along. Remember, you will be the one to bear the consequences of whatever your decisions are, so make them properly. God bless you.
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NOT ALL MEN ARE DOGS!!

Thu, 24 Jan 2019 20:48:54 +0100

Unfortunately it seems like it has become registered like a simcard in a phone in the mind of an average lady today that all men are dogs. Trying to convince the average young girl that there are men who stick to chastity before marriage is like undertaking an impossible task in some quarters. Many have proven it true severally that all men are dogs and that they are all the same with regards to sexual wantonness. Unfortunately times without number they’ve kept having experiences that pointing to the same conclusion even with the so called “Men of God”.

I have met ladies who after having such an encounter with a man of God demanding for sexual gratification have concluded that if the custodians of chastity are dumping it in the private, how much more those who are looking up to them as examples, therefore, all men with the exception of none cannot do without sex especially in relationship before marriage. Several have entered courtship with single pastors being rest assured of zero sexual demands and total purity and have been terribly disappointed! Is it that there are no chaste men indeed? Of course there still remains a bunch who would not bow their knees to Baal and that is what this article is about showcasing. But why? I believe it is the frequency of such misbehaviours from men who take the leadership positions among men that brought the world to this conclusion. I dare say, most of us men have disappointed God!

When we consider how we have handled weak ladies God brought our way to strengthen, or precious daughters of Zion who were virgins as at the time, God graciously released them to us for courtship, or the helpless friends God miraculously brought our way to help … What have we done with them? How have we touched them? What have we demanded from them? How have we taken advantage of their weakness or helpless state to satisfy our own untamed and doglike appetite? Dear brother, How?

It is even bearable when ladies are saying “All men are dogs” though this is not the whole truth but it is more terrible when men open their mouth to say, “We are all like that!” Erring church brothers have been found to say such statements to console or even deaden their conscience in this uncontrolled behaviour. You find them consoling their victims saying, “Don’t be disturbed, God knows this is a general weakness and we are all like that”. Some men actually agree that all men are dogs but i dare say it here today that anyone who sees himself as doglike should say so about himself but never generalise such a demoralising lie about all men! The question is, “Are you a dog?” If yes! No problem, but know clearly that you are the one who is a dog, not all of us!

Even in this morally decadent world, there are still brothers, guys and even to our shame (even unbelievers) who would never lose their zip before they seal marriage contract. Yes, despite all the Americanisation that has befallen us, there are still handsome young men, in fact successful and affluent ones who would still not bend on their chastity even if a thousand ladies would throws theirs at them. The gist is these guys are not even as rare as many think, it’s just that many of them are not proud to talk about their stand due to the fact that there are much more on the other side who would do anything to eliminate and disprove anyone around them by whose stand their conscience would not but worry them! How amazing it is to hear of ladies who would walk out of a relationship when the guy chooses to have it pure before marriage! Such ladies would seduce and seduce such men and when they out rightly fail, declare his impotence and quit. My conclusion is that: they are female dogs needing a male dog and not a real man who has his loins under his guard for such are the faithful men who do not in any way deserve to be married by unfaithful and undependable women!

Once again, I doff my hat for this great men… Virgins in a world that believes in their extinction. Great school boys who would say “No” even when the untaught girls are inviting them for an affair. I salute these set of married men in whose offices several a nakedness is advertised and yet not a penny of theirs talk-less of the tinniest bit of their emotional desire is poured on the streets. Those ladies who have met such ones as you, would never forget, neither would their conscience let them be for you have made a mark that others found too tall to attain. Virgin young men, Faithful married men, Rich young virtuous rulers … I praise you! I dedicate this write up to you especially those of you who have all the attractive and conducive comfort (a car, personal apartment, good job, etc.) and yet you would never use what God gave you to sin against him. Shuu! I celebrate you. Please permit me to throw a party for you right here in writing. You have properly represented before all, the man God had in mind when He made man. A few ladies have testified of you (great men who would not soil their garments even when they are stuck on a dirty island) and here are their experiences:
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ARE YOU SURE?

Thu, 24 Jan 2019 20:45:31 +0100

John and Mary have broken up! After 2 years? Dotun and Mercy just broke up last week! He came back from Unima and that was it: 3 years courtship, torn to shreds! Cathy finally wrote from the US, only for him to declare that he was no longer interested. I’m sure you’re familiar with these stories. They seem to be happening every day and if you are in courtship right now with a brother, you would agree with me that there’s a good reason for the question: Are you sure?

Gone are the days when a lady can relax once she’s found a Christian brother on fire for the Lord. She could be rest assured that a blissful marriage is already sure and secured. Many have placed their entire confidence on the spirituality and trustworthiness of a highly respected brother. I’m sure you’ve heard stories of how disastrous and shocking their disappointments have been? So many ladies have had their emotions completely crashed, some others have cried heavy tears that refuse to dry and some are still crying, even now!

Quietly, in the heart of every lady, she wants to know if truly, she’s the one this guy loves or she’s just one of the multitudes of loved ladies around him. She really wants to be sure she’s not being deceived. Coupled with the fact that ladies out there, are so desperate to get any good guy to marry, she’s not sure of her stand. Anytime the Mr. or Bro. fails to fulfil a promise or meet up with an appointment, the deep question rings again, “Are you sure???” Sincerely, a lady in the heat of a relationship cannot really count how many times she asks that question. This is a major cause of her several hours of deep thoughts (an example of what men can never return/reconcile when they break a relationship).

Dear reader, can I ask you? Are you sure of that brother? Will he be true to you? Will he keep faith with you in the toughest of times? What of when unavoidable circumstances put some distance in-between you (e.g. UNIMA, job transfer, etc.): Now that he’s abroad, would he actually come back for you? Would he in the face of desperate lovers in his far away location; still reserve your place for months? Or for few years? Will he wait for you? Or will he later change his mind? Can you give an answer? Are you sure…

If you will be sincere, you would agree with me that you are not in any proper position at all to answer any of the above questions. As a matter of fact if you supplied any answers to the above, I’m afraid, you are just guessing. The truth is ONLY DIVINITY CAN SUPPLY YOU WITH THE ANSWERS TO THESE QUESTIONS. It takes divinity to know what will happen that has not happened. Or can you by any means ever see the desperately wicked heart of a man. Sorry Ma, only god has that equipment, you don’t.

The God who made man said that his heart is desperately wicked and that no one can know it. Not even you, my dear sister. Only God! Only God, I repeat, can guarantee a relationship between a brother and a sister. He alone can make the brother “ZIP UP” when another lady “ZIPS DOWN” on him. This is the crux of this article.

Since only the Lord can guarantee a man for marriage; it will be like playing pool with your life to go ahead into a relationship with a man when you possess a dysfunctional and unhealthy relationship with the Lord Himself. Just imagine the kind of uncertainty of heart with which you will go into and through courtship and into marriage if you ever survive to that point at all? Dear Reader, why don’t you reconcile with Jesus and let Him be your guarantor. Without Jesus you can never be sure! You will only continue with gambling and getting jilted. How I wish you made up your mind right now and offer up your life to Christ. Even as you read this article, open up your heart and Jesus will hear you and come in for your deliverance.

So many times, I marvel at sisters or ladies who begin to base their trust on a fiancé on the premise of his goodwill, actions, words and sense of commitment displayed so far. Dear reader, even if Bro. is a senior pastor; that has nothing to do with the issue of a desperately wicked heart. The God who made man said that his heart is desperately wicked but that ONLY HIM CAN KNOW IT. Not you! Only God can guarantee. There is no point hanging on his words because he may not mean it, neither his actions because, it may not reflect his heart.

Rather than trust him why don’t you just trust God for him. These two are very different issues. Trusting a man is not the same thing as trusting God for him. Trusting God for a man will make you rely on what God told you about him and not what he told you. It will make divine conviction and continuous heartfelt prayers the bedrock of your relationship and not the sea of love letters and cards with which he physically expressed himself. Trusting God for a man will make you continuously receive the answer to the ringing question from the Lord himself and stop struggling to convince yourself that he loves you. It will make you have a constant answer irrespective of his actions, whether encouraging or discouraging.

Have you ever wondered why some women will go to the extent of asking a Ng’anga (traditional spiritualist) to tie their husband’s heart to them? They eat concoctions, make incisions on their body, take the guy’s name or photograph to an herbalist; in fact, some would constantly have sex with him, just for him to stick to them. Is it not the “Are you sure…” matter? The bible says that the people of this world are in their own generation wiser than the children of light. I don’t blame their intention, I only query their evil means. But while an ungodly girl will do all in her capacity to secure the heart of her intending husband in this highly competitive world, a godly believer would simply relax in praise worship once she is sure that God brought them together. She stops all the serious tear-dropping prayers of “Give me my husband” and she expects God to work everything out automatically from that point forward. She sits down there idly saying, “My fiancé is born again; he knows what is right and wrong, he cannot misbehave!”

Dear sister, that brother can misbehave! As long as he is human, he can turn back on his words! Even if he is the personal assistant to the bishop. Remember Jesus said “While men slept, an enemy came and sowed tares…” this is a very great evil many holy Christian sisters should repent of: Sleeping at watch hour. Wake up from your slumber and cry to God regularly for this brother not to fall into temptation. As strong as Uriah was, he fell down dead when Israel left him alone to fight in a battle. You need to tighten up your prayer belts if the enemy won’t succeed with you. Know that, that brother has a lot to combat if he will stay true to you, especially if he is the kind of brother and sister would like to marry. Seduction has found a seat in the church talk less of the streets; some desperate sisters are ready to cook with the anointing oil for him to choose them. Of course, you are not the only one seeing that he is responsible and appropriate for a husband. As a child of God, you cannot go to a Ng’anga, you dare not offer him sex, if you would be true to Jesus. So how can you be careless in praying about him and for him seeing that this is the only powerful and righteous thing that you can do.

My heart breaks each time I hear the news that a Bro. and sis. In courtship have concluded that it is now the will of God for them to break up as for me, I don’t always believe that they were initially wrong. Though most of the time, such relationships were not appointed by God but it is not always the case! Sometimes, it’s just a case of “While men slept, an enemy came and sowed tares…” In a world where 7 women shall lay hold on the skirt of one correct man (Isa.4), it takes the same level of prayer it took you to get a fiancé to maintain one till wedding day and even after. These are the days of working out your own salvation with fear and trembling. If you ever make a mistake of going to sleep like several sisters have done already, you will only wake up one day to shout, “An enemy has done this…!” Herein lies the call for a new generation of vigilant sisters who would not only listen carefully to the voice of the Holy Spirit to know who Bro. Goodwill is; but will also keep listening to His voice (in the relationship) to keep knowing who he is at present.

Dear reader, this is the only way you can be really sure, not because he promised you. NO! Not because he expresses deep love for you, NO! But because God, the Alpha, the all-knowing keeps assuring you. The one who sees the hearts of men and looks straight into their deep intentions. He is the best anchor for a sure relationship. He is the answer to the ringing questions. So I challenge you, the next time the deep question rings, “Are you sure…?” Turn to God and take your answers from him and stop answering it by grading his actions. Let God assure you as you daily commit it into His hands. And if the Lord answers you in the negative, then cry out to Him for help. He’ll surely tell you what to do. A broken courtship is better than a broken marriage. So let me ask you again, “Are you sure…?”

DON'T SLEEP THERE

Thu, 24 Jan 2019 20:44:17 +0100

Despite the accurate knowledge most believers have of the righteous demands of God’s word as per fleeing from (avoiding) sexual immorality, it is interesting to note that several of us still engage in this sin that holds so tightly to us. We fall in love, commence a relationship, we pray together, fellowship together and when the hormones get warm, we fail brakes, grapple for control as the smooching intensifies. Before the cock crows at dawn, the deed is done and the unplanned sex is over. Interestingly most of the believers I’ve counselled fell for it for their first time as they stayed and slept over at their fiancé’s place and amazingly in most of the cases, it was the lady that went to sleep there!

The first time occurrence is the cycle begin point and it is normally hallmarked by tearful cries of “Lord I’m sorry” and a heartfelt repentance, then it happens again, and again, and again… then weariness sets in to repentance; leading us to conclude that God must just understand and the “take me as I am” syndrome attains the status quo! This is the burden of my heart as I write to my single brothers and sisters in the Christian faith presently in one relationship or the other, faced with challenges of spending more and more time with their beloved partners while keeping the relationship unspotted by their hormonal fire especially as there is always a temptation to sleep over for more quality time together as against saying a difficult good night & good bye! Please hear my candid counsel at every such junction: “Don’t sleep there!”

For those who ask why? The reason is very straightforward and simple. It is because you have:

A God to represent: This is the most critical reason two unmarried courting singles should never spend the night alone with each other.When two unmarried Christians in Courtship spend the night together in the same room as if they were already a couple (married) they send forth an odious, irritating aroma of the gospel to the vicinity where they camp. The problem with that act is not just whether sex happens or not but the very act of sleeping together does volumes of havoc to the testimony of Christ in your neighbourhood. The Bible stipulates it clear: Provide things honest before all men. Each one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour. Walk worthy of the vocation wherewith ye were called (Eph 4:1). Coming out of a brother’s room with night gown at 5:30am to use the general toilet is not honest before two men talkless of all. It is tantamount to mocking God when you lock up with the opposite sex (fiancé or fiancée) in your room and wake up to preach to your neighbours against fornication. This has become so rampant that some believers do not even know that courtship (unlike marriage) is not a licence to sleep together! You may not even be having sex but you are not promoting a clear image of the one you are representing in the neighbourhood. Provide things honest before all men! (Rom 12:17). You are not your own, you have a God to represent where you live! It would have been much harder to believe that the baby Jesus is the son of God born of a virgin… if Mary used to sleep in Joseph’s house! Think about this!

A salvation to protect: The Bible says, Work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. When it comes to the issue of sexual immorality, consistently the bible keeps insisting on fleeing and avoidance as the key solution apart from a heart devoted to prayers. Yes, it is possible you sleep together with your partner and not have sex but what if it happens? Consider what you stand to lose and compare it with the self-denial of avoiding such an event! As long as you do not go near the waters, you have no need to worry or pray against shark bites! Guard; protect your heart with all diligence. Flee all appearances of evil. Do everything possible to make your calling and your election sure.

A body to present: This is the will of God even your sanctification: that ye abstain from sexual immorality. Rom 12.1 says, “Present your bodies as a holy and acceptable sacrifice unto God”. Christian partners in courtship who sleep over in each other’s place normally hide under the evil excuse that they were still pure because they did not fully have intercourse (i.e. entering into each other) and it usually sounds so acceptable and logical unfortunately there is more to immorality than actual entry. More often than not, those people fail to confess all the sexual outer-course; the sucking of lips and breasts, intensive grinding of body parts, fondling of each other’s naked or partially covered bodies, holding of private parts amidst several screams and giggles. Activities they may never be bold to bring to the light. Secret deeds of men done behind closed doors in the dark against the gentle voice of the Holy Spirit they carried within. When they manage to hold back from the final stage, they stop and gradually convince themselves that they did not sin… Yet so much grace and virtue like massive barrels had leaked away as the licked, touched and ground each other in the dark. Don’t sleep there!! Because a little hug talk less of a kiss, in the bedroom over the night would spark 10,000 times more fire than any other, a fiery fire that may defy all stop signals till it has burnt up all your divine deposits accumulated over many years.

A generation to lead: In the final analysis, no matter how hard and loud you preach, People follow what they see. They re-interpret your message by your life. Every believer is a leader, no matter who you think you are, small or big, someone out there is watching your life to model his or her own…. Unfortunately, most of the people we have unknowingly misled, we may never know! Some people gave in to sexual immorality all because they saw the sister they respected so much sleeping over in the house of her unmarried partner. This is the reason why the name of God is blasphemed among the heathen… THIS IS THE CAUSE when unbelievers (who would never follow us in) laugh at our sexual purity message. Note that whenever you tell your brother, neighbour to please help u accommodate your fiancé on a visit to you from afar…. You have preached more messages to him and your neighbourhood than a thousand sermons on Sunday.

An account to give: For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ; that every one may receive the things done in his body… (2Cor 5:10)

So what are the situations or excuses that normally tempt two unmarried lovers into sleeping over at the others place??? So far, I would itemize the common excuses I have seen and also prescribe an alternative way out of these in order to help all those who are sincere indeed in their quest to keep their body sanctified for the Lords use:

We are far apart from each other thus have to travel long distances to see and talk: Utilize all available communication technology to keep yourself connected and when you must see each other, plan and confirm where you would sleep before you travel. Ask him or her in plain terms, “Where am I going to sleep?” and don’t accept “don’t worry” as an answer. It is the responsibility of your host to arrange where you would pass the night otherwise, secure an arrangement for that by yourself. If he

We can sleep over without having sex: Surprisingly, it sounds innocent to many. Even if we assume you are right, what of the God you have to represent? It’s not just about if you had sex but already you are rubbishing the message we preach before the heathen.

He would sleep on the floor while I use the bed: Hmm, when the weather becomes hot or cold, the floor becomes the bed and the bed becomes the floor so where do you run? Under the same roof behind locked doors with someone you love is too much temptation not to keep warm with each other when you are not yet duly married.

Since we were going for a vigil, we decided to rest together first: Most likely the vigil would take place in that bedroom as it had happened to several already. Preferably, why not arrange that you both arrive at the vigil earlier than scheduled so that you can have enough time to discuss and catch up on all the news.

He works all day and even on weekends: Night is the only time available! Go to your pastor’s house or any other place both of you can safely communicate deep into the night.

I went to visit and the rains just didn’t stop till it was too late in the night: The rains have been the cause of so many unwanted pregnancies and abortions carried out especially by believers. Depending on the kind of house; are there not neighbours one of you can pass the night with? E.g. hall mates? Are others in that house? Where there are none, first begin by exposing the situation. Call your father in the Lord, discipline master, pastor or anyone who has spiritual oversight over you and inform him or her that you are stuck in your partner’s house. Also try to alert one or two other people (This is to ensure accountability as you would both know someone would be asking you about what transpired between you). Consider other options… but by no means sleep on the same bed.

She couldn’t find her key or his estate gates were already locked so the need to revert back to sleep over: Why is your house considered as an option? Supposing she went for an official function and got home that late, where would she have slept if she weren’t your fiancé? The truth is one would always find a very logical and understandable excuse for any evil one has really desired to enjoy!

He was terribly ill and I just couldn’t leave him, I had to be there with him: It’s okay if you’re in the hospital, at least, there would be several other patients there and you can’t sleep on his or her hospital bed so, no problem but if it’s in the house, then you have to show your care with great caution because Ammon was also on the sick bed when Tamar was raped by him. Meanwhile sexual excitement can suddenly make even a very sick man perform wonders when let loose!!

She just got a job around here and has no place to stay, moreover our wedding is just by the corner: Permit me to ask: Supposing she wasn’t your fiancé, would she lodge on the trees? Secondly, if indeed you are sincere, upright and of good report in your environment, there should at least be one female friend who can help host your wife to be for the period. In the worst case scenario, why don’t you just vacate the house for her and be personally banned from sleeping there.

Robbers came to her house the night before, so she’s scared: Again I ask: Supposing she wasn’t your fiancé, where would she sleep? A friends place (fellow sister), her pastor’s place, with a family relative, etc... She could visit (or invite down to her place) any of her siblings or probably travel down to her family to recover psychologically. Since you yourself may not have been able to confront the robbers, why go ahead to offend the God that mercifully kept them from shooting her down.

We went for a function and they assigned a room to both of us: Sometimes it’s even on visits to meet the guy’s parents especially when the parents are favourably opined to premarital sex. Immediately they assign the room, tell them point blank that both of you cannot sleep together in the same room until you are married. By so doing, you are preaching more gospel than a thousand sermons on Sunday morning. Seek an alternative arrangement even if it means sleeping on the rug. The testimony and honour accrued to your God would be more than worth it.

His Parents invited me over to spend the weekend: Same as above. Such parents must know your stand and integrity and they must not be allowed to water it down and in cases where they must be avoided, let the host move out of the room. Never allow a situation where the parents vacate the house for both of you. In such cases increase your alertness against sin, quickly re-arrange and maximize your chances to run.

Generally: Nevertheless, despite all that must be done, there still remains no justification to do anything contrary to the tenets of our common faith. That unfeigned faith which was once delivered to our fathers. Thank God for WhatsApp (a universal chat platform), Skype (we can make video & voice calls easily), 2go, yahoo messenger, Facebook messenger and all the other messengers available for us on both internet and mobile internet platforms. Thank God for MTN, Glo, Etisalat, Airtel, TNM, Multilink, etc... And their wonderful bonus services e.g. Khetekhete…. All these applications are available for our use to keep our communication lines open even over great distances. Some fifteen years ago, most of these facilities were not available in Nigeria, yet never a time has there been such arrogant levels of sexual immorality in the body of Christ as it is today. Intending couples couldn’t make free all night calls, chat online talkless of ping, etc. yet despite being as far apart as we normally are today, they built better foundations for stronger marriages than we see at these end times. How did they do it? Today we chat, ping, Skype, Facebook, WhatsApp, 2go, extra-cool all night and yet … it is that very one that God said we must not do that we must do.

Interestingly, we do it (premarital sexual outer-course and intercourse) and still minister at the altar, leading the worship, playing the drums, coordinating the service and even delivering the message on God’s behalf. We have gotten so used to God’s mercy that there is no more aorta of His fear left in our hearts. King Abimelech slept on the same bed with Rebbecca and without touching her, all the ladies in his house had already gone barren, in fact God called him dead! (Gen.20:3, 18). Samson took a nap on the wrong foam and it cost him his two eyes, his spiritual grace, his call and then his life. Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour (1Pe 5:8). There is a global divine treasure in you at stake. Don’t sleep there!

DON'T BREAK THAT GATE

Thu, 24 Jan 2019 20:37:05 +0100

Have you ever wondered why God carefully positioned a membrane of blood in a lady’s sexual opening? It is a thin mucous membrane that partially or completely covers the opening of the vagina. It is called the “hymen”. Scientists tell us that it has no particular function in the feminine body. According to them, it’s just there; but why would the maker put a breakable tissue full of blood (that contributes nothing to the body) at the very door of the sexual opening of the female? Why it is so carefully placed at that entrance, like a ribbon tied at the entrance of a new house about to be launched? Why is it filled with blood that spills away when it is broken? Why?

Without doubt, the hymen is a gate! It was God (our creator) who set that blood-filled vessel there as a covenant blockage, a sign and a token of a covenant between the bearer and whoever plunges into her opening. Before God, the disvirginity of a lady is not a casual act of fun. It is a serious covenant struck and confirmed by the blood shed on that day. This is God’s way of saying, “Whoever plunges in to this woman shall only be able to do so by making a blood covenant to be joined to her for the rest of his life, from that point onward. Little wonder why sexual intercourse was designed by God to take place only and only after the marriage contract is sealed.

The one who made the body (the hormones, organs, nerves, tissues, etc.) said it in clear terms in 1 Cor.6:13, “Now, the body is not for fornication”. Anyone who chooses to use the body for fornication must know that he/she is working directly against God’s plan for giving and keeping his/her body and there would definitely be a consequence either now or at old age. There a spiritual bonding, a supernatural process that takes place in a lady’s heart to the first guy that enters in to her especially at that particular time when the hymen breaks. There is no covenant without blood: this is why the membrane contains enough of it. As a matter of fact, what happens the first time a lady has sex is not just sex but an immersion and a bathing of the man with her hymen blood to initiate a covenant that is highly recognised in the spirit realm of both light and darkness.

The first time this happens just marks her opening day covenant ceremony and each subsequent experience goes on to further refresh or strengthen that covenant or establish another version of it with another person. Many have washed useless boys with that hymen blood. Many have struck irreversible covenants with men that have nothing to do with their destiny. Many have shared that hymen blood in sexual activity with demon-possessed men while some others have struck such precious covenants with candle sticks as they exercised sex with it. If only they knew, many girls who carelessly allowed themselves to be disvirgined in a bid to be among the so called “big girls” would never have done so.

The Bible says it in clear terms: “Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot (through sexual activity) is one with her (1 Cor. 6:16). You cannot be one with a man and still be one without him. This means that the persons involved are no longer complete without each other. And just like it takes God’s divine ability to make 1 + 1 = 1 in marriage, it would also take God’s divine intervention to make 1 – 1 = 1. This is why many girls are not yet married yet their spiritual composition is already shattered and imbalanced, because they have mingled their souls with that of different men. Dear reader, know today that there is a definite proportion of your virtue that leaves you each time a man enters into you and when that man leaves you, he leaves with it. That hymen is your gate and it was meant to seal you up (close you up) till you mingle with a man that has married you (not fiancé). One that will not carry your worth away or go and dump it in another woman’s soul. That hymen is a thing of pride. This is what men use to classify a lady as untapped, complete, chassis, intact, brand new (cha-cha) and unused. You would agree with me that this kind of ladies are getting rare.

Don’t listen to anyone who shouts down on virgins as outcasts, weaklings, unfortunate, small girls, etc. if only they told you the real truth about the spiritual poverty they feel deep within; you would have received boldness to celebrate your virginity in style. If you are still a virgin, please don’t join them. Stay chaste! Stay complete! Cover your body, dress well! Be proud of it! I hereby boldly say that it is a honour for a woman to experience sex for the first time after her wedding night and even the people that deny this fact know deep within themselves that they are only making up for their disgrace. Several of such have been broken into by cunning ruthless men who have robbed them so cheaply. Don’t break that hymen: It’s your gate and if you’ve broken it, allow the Lord to miraculously close you up now before you’re totally emptied of value and virtue! He will soon provide optimum security for you in a faithful man if only you trust Him.

Sex is a spiritual affair. A giving of yourself to another. All of these things have strong and terrible spiritual implications. A broken hymen opens you up to the spirit of the man that broke it, any other spirit whatsoever that may have mingled with that man’s spirit, those who have mingled theirs with him and the spirit of any other man that enters into you thereafter. The fun part of premarital sex is not really funny. What happens in between the lines (behind the sin) could be deadly and dangerous. HIV is just one among many of those demons of darkness sent to inflict pain on those who practice unauthorised and casual entry of a woman.

Just imagine how much of yourself would be lost each time a man enters into you without any properly signed marriage bond or contract. The truth is that you would have lost nothing, if that man you gave it to has been maritually joined to you in holy matrimony as your one and only husband because he remains with you forever. In that case, he would retain your virtues and never leave with it. But what happens when you give it to a man who is only promising but actually just intends to catch his fun and run away. You would lose what he took from you forever. Then imagine what happens when that man enters you to take you in to himself more than 20 times and goes over to another lady down the road to do the same thing. Then imagine what happens when ten men do you like that. What will remain of you? If not for the salvation that comes with Christ Jesus which is ever available for all who cry out for His cleansing and mercy.

Just in case you have a broken gate already out of an irresponsible, careless or casual sexual affair, May be you’ve even terminated the life of your very first child (in a deliberate abortion) in the process, Jesus is waiting for your call, no matter what you’ve done, only Him can restore back to you all the self-worth you’ve lost so unworthily. Hear Him say “Come!” Why would you continue living a wasted life? His own blood still washes white as snow. If you are still a virgin, then hold your head up and don’t break that gate. Don’t break it till the man who will sign his life to it has come. You’re not a sex object. Never flaunt your sexy nature, that’s a sign of worthlessness. There’s more to you, much, much, more than sexy. When a guy is attracted to you, let it be because of who you are and not because he saw your cleavage. You were made for a purpose in God. Find God and you will find it!

Don’t break that hymen because you need money. It’s of far more value than dollars. No! Not because you feel lonely: - it secures you till you possess true companionship. No! Not because you’re turned on: - it shields you from stuff that would shut you down. No! Not because you’re stuck in a place and you’re forced to sleep over; you had better sleep on a tree – it’s worth it. Remember, that hymen is your sexual gate, placed there by God and there is blood in it. If that gate must break, if your blood in it must be shed, then let it be on the body of the man who has married you (not just the one promising to do so).

You may actually need to cry to God to restore you! But whatever happens, make up your mind and repent! If you need some help or counselling, you can also get help from any man or woman of God closest to you; or simply get in touch with us. God bless you!

DON'T PLUG IT!!!

Thu, 24 Jan 2019 19:28:30 +0100

Dotun just got a brand new HP Desktop Computer sent to him from his sister in the US. So excited about this new device, he hurriedly tore the box (packaging) apart, removed all the seals, connected all the cables, picked up the power cable and plugged it in to the nearest available live socket. Guess what happened? BANG!! The CPU exploded and the smoke was all over the room. What did he do wrong?

He simply did not check the input voltage of the Desktop and assumed that it must have been the usual 220V. So he was erroneously plugging a 110-120V device in to a 220 -240V output wall socket and of course, the obvious happened. All his excitement disappeared at the speed of light, replaced by a deep calm and sober attitude. I wish someone shouted out to him just when he was about to plug it, “DON’T PLUG IT!” This is the same thing that happens to people who contacted HIV/AIDS after a wonderful sexual intercourse. They plugged it TOO FAST!

When you see a young man going into the room with a lady, ready to go live (naked) with him, there is so much excitement sparking in his bones. All his nerves seem to focus on only one place. Several neurones and sensory signals start migrating from the brain to the hip muscles. Blood vessels respond by redirecting blood cells formerly going elsewhere to the central point of action: that long spongy tissue in between the legs called the penis. Everything stands straight up, turgid and ready; and at that point his head seem to stop working. He dashes into that room and like someone under fire, throws off all his clothes and quickly gets down on the lady, more often than not: TOO FAST! NO CONSCIENCE CHECK: Whether what he is about to do is right, just and fair? NO BRAIN CHECK: Whether he is in a position to bear whatever the consequence that results from that act? NO SPIRIT CHECK: Whether the girl is demonic or covenanted with an evil spirit from her family that could alter the course of his destiny? NO HEALTH CHECK: whether the enzymes on her lips are not carrying contagious diseases, or whether she has syphilis (STD’s) or had contacted HIV/AIDS and when he uses condom, whoever takes the time to check whether the particular condom is not one of the faulty products with a leak in it; NO GOD CHECK: To hear God’s quiet voice against fornication and adultery! By the time the deed is done, he now starts to think …Too Late! This was how several of our young guys living with HIV/AIDS, GONNORHEA, and E.T.C got their ordeal. I wish they heard the voice of God, “Don’t plug it!”

Sex is a spiritual affair. It is a soul joining act! A giving of yourself to another. All of these things have strong and terrible spiritual implications. When you plug in yourself into a lady, What you are plugging is more than your private part, It is your spirit into her spirit, your soul into her soul, your destiny into her destiny, your blood into her blood, your life into her life whether you know or you don’t know. Sex is COVENANT – A blood bond between a male and a female, A spiritual agreement to be connected to each other for life. If you dare to plunge that protruding pound of flesh in between your legs into a girl’s opening, then you are ready for more than fun. The fun part of premarital sex is not totally funny. What happens in between the lines (behind the sin) could be deadly and dangerous. HIV is just one, among many of those demons of darkness to inflict sorrow on those who practice illegal entry of a woman.

The Bible says: “Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot (through sexual activity) is one with her? (1 Cor. 6:16). You cannot be one with a lady and still be one without her. This means that the persons involved are no longer complete without each other. And just like it takes God’s divine ability to make 1 + 1 = 1 in marriage, it would also take His divine intervention to make 1 – 1 = 1. This is why many young men would rarely marry with a wholistic soul, because they have mingled their souls with that of different ladies, and deepened covenant with some of them severally. Dear reader, know today that there is a definite proportion of your soul that is shared each time you plug into a lady and when you leave her, she leaves with it. Unfortunately many have already struck such far reaching communion with girls who have nothing to do with their destiny. Some have gone as far as plugging into a harlot (One whose body is available for ANY man, in the name of catching fun, to dump a fragment of his soul and go with any of the diseases common to such dumping grounds. A dangerous pit where the souls of many men connect as one). Others have shared their blood in sexual activity with demon-possessed girls whose appearance could never suggest that they were so deadly, while there are still those who strike such precious covenants abnormally with other men or even physical objects.

Sex was designed by God: NOT FOR BOYS! And NOT FOR THE UNMARRIED! Have you ever wondered why God carefully positioned a membrane of blood in a woman’s opening? God set that blood-filled vessel there to be broken by a man who is willing to covenant his life to secure that lady for the rest of his life from that point onward. There is a spiritual bonding, a supernatural process that takes place in a lady’s heart to the first man that enters into her. There is no covenant without blood: this is why the membrane contains enough of it. As a matter of fact, what happens when you plug in to disvirgin a lady is not majorly fun but a bathing of your manhood with her sacred hymen blood to initiate a covenant that is highly recognised in the spirit realm of both light and darkness. So young man, before you plug it, understand where that turgid plug is going and what is going to happen thereafter! Unfortunately rarely would he check the rules of the engagement or the terms of the contract until he has tied his destiny to the trap and his future is already distorted in exchange for a five minutes pleasure.

Are you still a virgin young man, please don’t let loose your seed. Don’t pour it just like that! Consider getting married with a complete and wholistic soul or why would you be tying your soul to fields you have not secured as yours by marriage? As for you, don’t just plug it anywhere! Keep it in till you find and wed your right socket: your own lawfully married wife and your resting place where your soul will be shared and still be whole. Even if a lady is the one begging you to come into her, Don’t plug it! Another fragment of your soul may be lost again. Even if she is already calling you impotent, Don’t plug it! You would sin against your God, lose your spiritual virtue, your anointing and your cutting edge. Even if your wedding day is just a few days away, Don’t plug it! Until your plug will be forever wedded to its own God ordained socket. I sense someone is just planning and scheming to throw away his sexual sanctity and taste sex with one lady somewhere. Hear the voice of wisdom today, Don’t plug it! Else you may not be able to unplug it, Don’t plug it unmarried! Some have been wrecked doing so!

Two people stood up in a conference and declared before many witnesses that they never had sex until after their wedding day. Suddenly the audience went quiet as though they had said something from outer space. Then I realised how far the lie had spread, that it had become abnormal or impossible in this day and age for a guy to be a virgin until he was married! Whereas the first man (Adam) was already over 120 years old before he plugged into his wife. We are not animals, neither are we dogs. It’s both unfair and a big lie to say, “All men are dogs or Men cannot control their sexual instincts!” If you are a dog, its because you chose to be one. Up till today, godly young men still marry as virgins and those who have done so can tell the difference as they would have no external soul mates from their past to meet on the road long after they are married. You can preserve your life seeds (sperm cells) rather than spraying it in unhallowed places. When you submit your life to be under the control of God’s word. His Spirit within you will rule your mortal body (including your sexual instincts and drives) in perfect subjection to the will of God except you will not have it so.

I weep for so many young men who are already connected to so many ladies already and still they are not yet married. The guy is connected to Titi (since Secondary school, when he plugged into her), he got connected to Gloria (during the 1st semester), he is still connected to Becky (since he travelled to South Africa for the holiday) and several others whose names he did not even register. Shattered emotions! Fragmented Soul!! Plugging everywhere, having no ability to say “NO” to his sexual drives, pouring out his life all over the place like the nozzle in the petrol station, having no understanding of divine judgement, breaking several hearts, sending some to the psychiatric hospital, paying others for the destruction of their wombs and the killing of his own children, he has children (many aborted, others scattered everywhere with their mothers), causing the death or the future woes of several. THIS KIND OF MAN, GOD WILL JUDGE! Nevertheless, thanks be to God whose mercy is available today for any such who repents NOW!! If your life has been this way, don’t waste any further time, Let your soul find restoration in Christ Jesus. He is your only hope and He can fix you today, if you would own up to Him!

Psalm 23:3 says: “He restores my soul”. There’s more to you, much more than having sex. You have a purpose you were born to fulfil, a God to please, a divine mandate to accomplish, a new generation to lead in the righteous path, a technology to invent, a national or global impact to make, and much more. You were made for a purpose in God. Find God and you will find it! But in-case you’ve been living a filthy sinful life, maybe you’ve never given your whole life-worth back to God or you’ve never really given your life to Christ, why not do it NOW? Have you lived a sexually immoral life? Have you disvirgined, messed up, broken and dumped someone so precious before you met her? Have you raped someone’s daughter? Have you impregnated a lady? Or do you already have a baby somewhere you have not accepted? All as a result of your lack of control and ungodliness. Jesus is waiting for you to rush back home before judgement hits you hard. No matter what you’ve done, only Jesus can fix your fragmented soul. Hear Him say “Come!”. Why would you continue with a wasted life, assisting the devil in the destruction of the lives of our daughters? His own blood still washes white as snow. You may actually need to cry to God to restore you! But whatever happens, make up your mind and repent! If you need some help or counseling, you can contact me or find a worthy man of God around you but you need to respond to God now. Talk to Him about any part of this message that has affected you and let your life take a new turn from today!

"Are You Sin Conscious or God Conscious?"

Thu, 24 Jan 2019 20:53:07 +0100

"Are You Sin Conscious

or God Conscious?"

"But of him (God) are YE IN CHRIST JESUS, WHO OF GOD IS MADE UNTO US (to become; to come into existence) WISDOM (full of divine intelligence), and RIGHTEOUSNESS (standing upright), andSANCTIFICATION (consecration; purity), and REDEMPTION (released by full payment of the price of ransom)". 1 Corinthians 1:30 KJV (Capitals are mine for emphasis)

"THE SECOND ADAM"--JESUS CHRIST--CAME TO PAY THE PENALTY OF SIN, TAKING OUR PLACE

We were all born sinners and conceived in iniquity (Psalm 51). That was the beginning of our human condition, thanks to Adam and his fall, as "federal head" of the human race. But, "the second Adam"--Jesus the Christ--came to pay the penalty of sin, taking our place, paying the price by giving His life on the cross, that when we accept Him as our personal Savior, we inherit eternal life. When we repent--turning our back on our past; changing directions; doing a 180 degree turn by renouncing our sins--our names are written in the Lamb's Book of Life. We are born again, as we are adopted by the Holy Spirit into the family of God.

WE HAVE A CHOICE TO MAKE. THE SCRIPTURES TELL US TO "WORK OUT OUR OWN SALVATION WITH FEAR AND TREMBLING"

Now that we are converted, we must make a decision on how we are to live our Christian life on a daily basis. We have a choice to make. The Scriptures tell us to "work out our own salvation with fear and trembling"--a holy reverential awe of God Himself, not the fear of self-condemnation. The Holy Spirit within us is there to convict us of sin and to warn us of its dangerous pitfalls. Sadly, many believers live under condemnation and are constantly repenting of a majority of their thoughts and deeds. After awhile they are sinning--"missing the mark of God's perfection"--so much that they start to doubt God's forgiveness, and even stop forgiving themselves. They live in torment. Their salvation is based on "their performance", instead of "trusting in the finished work of Christ on the cross". Always trying to make themselves good enough for God, they miss the point, which robs them of their joy. Often their repentance is crying at the altar until they pray away conviction, and then continue to live as they did before. It's a vicious cycle.

WE ARE "IN" CHRIST JESUS. HE HAS "MADE US TO BECOME" WISDOM, RIGHTEOUSNESS, SANCTIFICATION AND REDEMPTION

But, there is a better way to live. Instead of being "sin conscious", we need to be "God conscious". We are "in" Christ Jesus. He has "made us to become" wisdom, righteousness, sanctification and redemption. Jesus said, "If you love Me, you will keep my commandments". We do not have to live "a negative Christianity", being in fear of losing our salvation by always looking at the temptations to sin. The key is "our love for Jesus". We do not want to displease Him, but instead do everything we know to bring Him joy. When we are so busy doing what we are supposed to do there will not be enough time left to do what we should not do. And, if we do fall, we instantly confess it to the Lord, and receive His instant forgiveness, grateful for His enduring mercy.

WHEN WE HAVE A GRASP AND A PROPER UNDERSTANDING OF THIS CONCEPT, WE WILL NOT WANT TO DEFILE OURSELVES WITH THE FILTHINESS OF THE FLESH

When temptation comes--and it does to all of us--we resist it by reminding ourselves, God, and the devil of who we are in Christ Jesus. The emphasis is on Who God is, instead of focusing on sinning. We decree that we are walking in wisdom, with "the mind of Christ", having access to divine intelligence. James encourages us, when he writes, "If any man lack wisdom, let him ask of God, Who giveth liberally, and upbraideth not (does not take it back)". God wants to bestow His wisdom on and in us liberally. He is desirous to remind us--as we remind ourselves--that "we are the righteousness of God in Christ (the Anointed One)". It is His righteousness, not ours, but it becomes ours when we are "in Him". This means we are "standing upright" in God's eyes. In Christ we are sanctified--"set apart from the world, and set apart unto God". When we have a grasp and a proper understanding of this concept, we will not want to defile ourselves with the filthiness of the flesh. And, furthermore, we are redeemed--bought back from Satan. with the full price of our pardon, which is the sinless blood of Jesus. So, my friend, what will it be--living with a magnified view of sin, or living with the knowledge of being surrounded by the presence of God, and not wanting to go back to low living? This is "taking the high road".

"Disappointments . . . God's Appointments . . . For Something Better"

Thu, 24 Jan 2019 20:53:57 +0100

"Disappointments . . .
God's Appointments . . .
For Something Better"

"But as for you, YE THOUGHT EVIL AGAINST ME; BUT GOD MEANT IT UNTO GOOD, to bring to pass, as it is this day, TO SAVE MUCH PEOPLE ALIVE". Genesis 50:20 KJV (Capitals are mine for emphasis)

REMINDERS OF WHAT COULD HAVE BEEN SURROUND US, BUT THE ASHES CAN NEVER BE GLUED BACK TOGETHER AGAIN

Have you ever had your dreams shattered and left in shreds? What you had hoped for went downward into reverse gear. The vision which consumed you is now dead, with little or no hopes of resurrection. Disappointments! They come to all of us. The hurt and heartbreak is deeper and more severe than any physical pain which we have ever endured. Trust has been broken. Promises have been forgotten, just as though they never existed. Reminders of what could have been surround us, but the ashes can never be glued back together again. And, some goof-ball comes out of the shadows with all of the answers as to why everything went wrong. Of course, he has been "sent by the devil" to rub the salt of discouragement into the wound of disappointment . When we need encouragement the most, and an uplift, some ignoramus, under the guise of being more spiritual than we are, throws the failure we have just experienced smack dab into our face.

PERHAPS THERE WAS NOTHING WRONG WITH THE VISION, BUT IT NEEDED TO FIRST DIE SO THAT LATER IT COULD BE RESURRECTED INTO A MORE PERFECT FORM

How could God have allowed this? If you have ever been to Hell and back you know exactly what I am talking about. Shallow people with no purpose in life have no idea of what it is to "go through the fire". Only those whom God has His hand on for special assignments are taken to the depths of despair. Perhaps there was nothing wrong with the vision, but it needed to first die so that later it could be resurrected into a more perfected form which would please God, and be more effective than it was in its original format. Only those who have been pressed beyond measure in the crucible of disappointments and betrayal know the purifying flame of persecution used by the Holy Spirit to refine us into pure gold.

HE WANTS US TO NOT ONLY TRUST HIM, BUT IT IS HIS DESIRE TO TRUST US

Believe it or not, disappointments are God's appointments for something better. What we do not pay some kind of price for we do not fully appreciate. We will go through "a sifting process" before getting to the place the Holy Spirit has in mind for us. He wants us to not only trust Him, but it is His desire to trust us to get specific jobs finished, and that with excellence. Very few can earn the trust of the Father as they are filled with the fear of torment and have never resolved their persistent doubts. Faith is one thing, but faithfulness is a step above. In the end, we will not be judged by how much faith we had, but how faithful we were.

THE DEPTH OF OUR UNDERSTANDING AND RESPONSIBILITY WHICH HE EXPECTS WILL NOW BE SHARPER AND MORE KEEN

God has appointed you, and me, to step up to a higher level of commitment and understanding of divine mysteries. The main reason He allowed disappointment to come in that which we formerly pursued, is that even though the vision was basically good and commendable, there were some rough edges which had to be knocked off before He could use it as He originally planned. The depth of our understanding and responsibility which He expects will now be sharper and more keen. Our sensitivity to His voice and direction will be magnified. Later, when we look back to the beginning of this journey we will "discover the unseen hand of God at work". The evil which came against us, God will turn into good, and give us uncommon favor. The end will be better than the beginning. Always remember that, and never let this truth be removed from your spirit. Many people will be affected by what you--and, me too--are destined and commissioned to do.